The Author's Corner: Nothing Really Matters

In what has come to be, what matters to you? An easy question you would think, however it is loaded with looking at yourself. Many things that matter to you do not matter to others. It is a personal thing for us all. As some try to make their list there are others who try to tell you what should matter. This happens as those people who are in your life want the things that matter to them to matter to you. Most times this is where problems happen.

With the time it takes to write out what matters to you, remember who you are and what is important in your life. As that list grows from a few to start with and before you know it you have pages which will show you who you are. The reason I say this is because the things that you enjoy doing is what matters most for you. For me, I enjoy reading and writing as many of you know. As well I enjoy model trains, cooking, having coffee with friends, traveling and listening to music. Does this mean that everyone should enjoy these things? The answer is no because everyone is different and like other things.

So, if you know what you enjoy doing just focus on you and the things that make you different. In what has come to be people wanting others to follow their likes and they go to all lengths to do it, and these people are not comfortable with who they are.

Once you have your list made, then take it as your own life and live life. For me, when I write my poetry, I sit down by the lake near where I live, or I will watch the sunset to get me into the mood to write. Many times, when I need to get ideas for the most present novel that I am writing, I will find myself having coffee with my friends.

These are the things that matter to me. Always, do the things you want to as your happiness is your responsibility. Take what is going to be your time and in this you will start living your own life. We may enjoy some of the same things as others and that is where friendships are made stronger. In these situations, we see each other as equals and most stick to their love for the activity. For what I have experienced is I have friends who are from the culinary world, and we talk about cooking, which is the base of our friendship. Everything else is about teaching each other and our other likes.

As our relationships grow so does our interests. At this point is when you may find that you enjoy something else the other person does. This is the positive way of letting your friend to influence you and your interest rubs off on them.

I enjoy chess as well, I am not the greatest player, however I can hold my own. I have a few friends who enjoy the game, but it was not touched on until we got to know each other and our other interests.

The bases of what makes up the things that matter to you will always be made by you in the long run. It is what makes up your personality and who you are.

Stay safe.