The Author's Corner: Blood on Blood

The bond of friendship is best said to be a joyful thing when everything is going well. There are factors that make people friends. Some are as common as enjoying the path of learning about each others’ hobbies and being comfortable in each others company.

These couple of factors that I have mentioned are the main things that build the friendship.

When there is a common like, that in itself is the stepping stone to start the bond. Now for some, there is always going to be a give and take in the relationship because it is what comes to any true friend. What we have to do is to let the other person speak and listen to what they are saying instead of just waiting for our time to talk. This is something that take time to achieve.

For hobbies, we could put this as the likes because I think that relationships that are formed from the hobby breaks the ice between each person. Each person has reasons why they like the hobby, which is shared with it and at most times the reason why the other person likes it is different than the other person. This is where both people gain a different perspective of the hobby which makes it more interesting.

The time we spend with each friend during coffee’s, and such is where being in each others company is comforting, however being in someone’s else’s presents can be hard at times. The truth is that once you are able to spend a comfortable silence between yourself and your friend will make a true friendship.

Sometimes during relationships there are hard times, and your true friends will disagree with you once and a while and you with them. At this point your feelings are involved and a true friend will always say that we can agree to disagree.

In my life I have very few friends, I know that I have been called out by them in one way or another. The hardest part that I have had to face is when I was called out about my thinking. It was a couple years after my diagnosis, and I was complaining about it. I was asked, ‘Are you the illness or is it a part of you?’ It made me think. This friend has called me out several times during our friendship. If it was not for him, I would most likely have committed suicide at the end of my first year of Culinary Arts. This suicide would have been given up on my dreams of becoming a chef. A true friend he is, and it takes a strong person to call out their friend as it can go many different ways. I was just lucky that he first explained himself to me before he called me out that first time. Since then, he has become like an older brother who wants the best for me.

Finding a true friend is hard in todays world, however they are out there.

Stay safe.