The Author's Corner: Friendship

What is friendship? The question should be who can you trust? In friendship there are many types of them; some short and others that last a lifetime. Within each type of friendship there is two or more people involved, as well what each party is getting from the union.

In the past is where we can see all our relationships that gives lessons that we have gained. When you start a friendship with others there is a question of what you want from it. Most people now a days are only in them because they get some kind of gain. To make it simple most people use each other and once there is nothing else to gain the relationship ends.

That is the world we live in today, no one knows how to be a friend. It all comes to how society has changed over the years. Today people are afraid to be alone and will do anything to keep someone in their life even though they get abused.

For me, I have very few friends or people I call my friends. I never really had any friends that I could trust when I was growing up. I was always alone so I learned at a young age how to manage my life that way. I never thought I would spend most of my life alone, yet it has helped me to achieve my goals and dreams.

As I say, I have a few friends that I made when I went to the city to study my cooking. One of them, he is my biggest supporter, and he change my life in so many ways. I have two others from that time that in the past few years I have reconnected with.

I have made a few friends after I was diagnosed with my illness, and they play a huge roll in my life now. These friends see me for who I am and not my illness. The time that we spend together is quality as we share a common goal towards our own futures as we will be living in the same community for the next many years.

It has been hard for me to trust new people in my life because of what I went through in my childhood. Even when I was in college, letting these three people into my life was hard for me. Not to mention the reconnection after my diagnosis in 2005. I never knew how true of friends they were until they said that now they understand the things from back then and that it does not matter that I have an illness.

When it come to making friends, there is always a good time at the start. Then there is the learning of who the person is over the relationship. In this time is when you find out if the friendship is going to last or not.

To find a true friend now a days is hard, and you first must be a friend to yourself before you can be a friend to someone else. I know that you only have a short time on this planet so be your own best friend and then real people will come into your life.

Stay safe.